VI. Lovers

Choice, connection, love, commitment

“I honor the choices that keep me real

and full of love and authenticity.”

 

The Lovers in tarot often refers to relationships and making choices. But in fact this card is not only about romance or deep emotional connections. It's about finding balance within yourself and with the world around you.

Two flowers growing side by side, their stems twisted around one another. They are not the same flower; their colors are different, their shapes unique, but they grow in harmony. They are reaching toward the same sun, growing in the same earth and moving in the same wind. This is what the Lovers card is all about: finding strength in differences. One does not become the other: each remains itself, but they choose to grow together. 

To help these flowers grow well, each of them has to root deeply into the soil. If one gets too tight around the other, it can cause harm. There is tenderness in their intertwining, not restriction. The more fully you are yourself, the more fully you can see and meet the other.

This means that the Lovers card isn’t just about blind commitment. It’s about choice. Deliberate, conscious choice. The choice to commit. To see clearly. To choose what matters even when it’s uncomfortable. It is not effortless. You must be present, honest. Willing to be seen, but also see for yourself in return. 

It’s not like every connection is going to be perfect or every choice easy. The relationships we build are like flowers: they grow when we take care of them. And yes, they can bend in the wind or grow unevenly towards the sun. But with the right care for each other, they will root deeper and bloom bigger.

So have a look around you. What connections in your life feel true and right to you? What flowers are growing near you? Are their stems intertwined with yours in harmony or are they blocking out your light? 

Loving someone or something means taking risks. Choosing to be with someone takes courage.

Reflections

  • What does love mean to me right now? How has that meaning changed over time?

 

  • What important choice am I facing and how can I make sure it feels right for me?

 

  • What parts of myself am I easily neglecting or rejecting in commitments with others?